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My children keep acting like children. I’m working on it.

I have encountered the same scenario in the general public over and over. It happens in the form of the disgusted eye roll at a toddler having a tantrum. In the snide remark about a lack of discipline in regards to the 5-year-old crying inconsolably. There’s something many adults in America can’t stand. Something that drives them batty and brings out the nasty in many of them.

They hate it when children act like children.

Who can blame them, really? They refuse to eat dinner. They throw tantrums. They roll their eyes when someone brushes their hair. They get completely overwhelmed when they’re exhausted and have little control over their emotions. They fight – egad do they fight. They get loud and rambunctious and make messes.

Then again, so do many adults.

And then there are the emotional and social problems. Children are on a completely different plane from adults. And try as I may, I still cannot get mine to come up to the level of a normal American adult. They have *no* idea how to judge someone based on their appearance. They assume every person is a life, equal in value and importance to theirs, and should be treated as such. I have yet to get them to understand how to get angry in traffic, or be rude to a store employee, or gossip about their peers. For the life of me, I can’t get them to worry about money, or question God’s faithfulness, or hold a grudge. Not to mention that they have absolutely no desire to bash political leaders on either side.

No matter what I do, I just can’t get them to act like adults. My sincerest apologies to the eye-rolling onlookers in the grocery stores and malls.

And people have no qualms about pointing that out. “Does she always act like that?” “Are you disciplining her?” “My kids never did that.”

I know, I know. I’m working on it. And in relation to these observations, I’m also working on teaching them to be judgmental and elitist. It takes time to develop those skills.

So please understand, I know how things look. My two-year-old can’t sit still, and she has no idea how to not immediately forgive any offense. My four-year-old ruins meal times with her food issues sometimes, and for the life of me I can’t get her to stop outwardly displaying love to her family, or making friends wherever she goes. And the eight-year-old. Don’t even get me started. Every morning is a battle over the hairbrush, and I can’t get her to stop helping her sisters, encouraging me to keep trying, or throwing herself passionately into learning as much as she can, about as many things as she can.

In fact, at this point in time, I’m starting to worry that they may never fit in with normal adults like me.

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About Mediocre Mom

I am a wife to the man who was made for me, and mom to three amazing girls: Punkin is eight, Goo is four, and Smush is two. I'm a Christian, a science geek, and completely addicted to coffee. Trying to stay sane one day at a time. Lowering the bar for moms everywhere.

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  1. May they never turn into the likes of us eye rolling intolerant big people! XXOO

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    • Amen, Lori! All too often I find myself exhibiting the very traits I get irritated with them for – like impatience. Sometimes they’re a good reminder of how to relax a little and always be in a hurry.

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  2. Next time someone puts a word out about my child not “behaving”, I’m just calmly going to respond how his “eye-rolling” course has not kicked in yet.

    Now when I think of it, we berate kids for being picky eaters, and then calmly proceed to Starbucks and order “no-foam soy caramel latte with a whiff of pumpkin spice and double shot of caramel, but no cinnamon, served in to-go cup”. God forbid we get foam in our coffee, or mix cinnamon with caramel. Because, as adults all our likes/dislikes are “justified”. Because we pay for them? Or because the drivers licence says so? I dunno.

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    • Really good point! So many adults get upset with children getting upset, but have we ever seen ourselves throwing a tantrum when our food is cold in a restaurant, or someone cuts us off on the highway? For some reason being over the age of 18 suddenly makes the very same behaviors acceptable.

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  3. You nailed it again Beth. Well said!!!

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